TIGblogs - Rerenga

Here's a question: How can you hate someone? Seriously.

I genuinely want to know your answer to this. Insight into the feeling of hate and what it means to a person. You in this instance.

See, I find it hard to hate a person. I can get annoyed at someone, frustrated and angry, but I don't blame them for me getting upset about something they did or reacting to how they are - or at least I like to think I don't...hah! I take it as something *I* control...I recognize the feelings I feel for a person isn't necessarily reflective of the way they are or *who* they are as a person...only what I perceive them to be...so I don't feel justified in hating *them* when who I think they are is only the outer shell of their being. How can I hate someone I don't know?

Maybe I'm kidding myself with that way of thinking. It's pretty idealistic seeing as I reckon you can't possibly *fully* know a person anyway.

But...that's my reasoning and what I try to keep reminding myself so that I work harder at getting to know someone. It's practically ingrained in genetic strand.

I can remember a time when I've hated some people, but that was way back in the days of primary school. And I can't remember exactly when I started to "condition" myself for my reasoning on not hating people...but I know that it was just someone telling me that hate and love are at the extreme ends of the scale. You can't go any lower than hate; you can't go any higher than love.

Hate is the ABSOLUTE. Hate. The End. Close the door, lock it and throw away the key, pull the gate down, turn the sign around, stop time, kill it and be done with it.

To me, to hate someone is to kill them (figuratively of course). When you hate a person, they're dead to you.

Pretty extreme eh?

I'm not saying that I'm right. Or wrong for that matter. I'm just saying that this is my meaning of hate and believing it helps me to be a person who...cares about people? Hmmm. No, not "care" exactly, but...it helps me to be considerate of others, responsible for my own reactions and able to dictate how I deal with whatever comes up as opposed to letting myself blame others for the way I act and feel.

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This was my previous though anyway which I now refute to some extent...

The part where I say I don't know how a person can hate another...I've just remembered what it was like.